Thursday, November 3, 2016


I've never been a big resolutions girl.

I've tried to be.

I've created neat spreadsheets with goals just pouring out from key category headers: spiritual, physical, financial, personal. But by the middle of the quarter I'd find myself discouraged that I was falling short on my financial goal or I'd failed to make time for that friend I said I would. And it became a burdensome to-do list that landed in the resolutions graveyard.

So I just stopped resolution-ing.
Not that I don't have goals, goals are important. I just don't write them down with a start date of January 1st anymore.

This year, I've decided to focus on just one word, one thing or theme that I want to be present in my life and true of me. And that is joy.

I didn't assign a theme to last year but if I would have, the back 10 probably would have been "survival." And that probably sounds dramatic but it's the word that kept coming to mind as I thought back through my year. I recalled a specific conversation I had with my mom on a particularly hard day about finding joy in each day. She said even if it's seeing a cute dog on the street, even if that's all you have that day, find something to be joyful about. And though that sounds simple enough and perhaps like a New Year's cop-out, that's my focus for the year. No resolutions, just joy.
Joy in the daily, joy in the mundane, joy in the good, joy in the hard.

Yesterday didn't feel like a new day. I didn't pop out of bed with a smile on my face and feet set to dancing. It felt like just another day on the same journey. But, there was a renewed sense of grace and joy.

To a joyful New Year, friends.


Katie said...

I think we posted sort of similar things about resolutions on each of our blogs and I love that. I love that you chose Joy. I think I'm going to embrace that this year too. Everyone needs Joy and it's super hard to see and find but it's definitely something I know that I need. I have been thinking of doing like a weekly post of that week's "joy." So like each day write down a few things that made me happy or were good or brought me joy and do like my Little Bits of Happiness type posts I did before except the whole week combined into one blog post each week - does that make sense???

Anyway. I love you. Lots. And I am really proud of you. And you are like one thousand times stronger than I am. And I hope this new year brings you more joy then you could ever imagine. Also, I'm pretty sure your mama is amazing and gives the best advice and should write a book. I'd buy it. Love you! Praying for you!

Katie said...

Also, blog more often, please and thank you. We need to know about any fire alarms that go off. We are missing out. DON'T LEAVE US IN THE DARK, ASHLEY!

Katie said...

Please blog again. I miss it dearly.

your dear coolest blonde friend ever