“Make new friends but keep the old; those are silver, these are gold.” – Joseph Parry
I've been fortunate throughout my life to have girlfriends….always, it seems. I can only remember one span in my life when I found myself truly alone without a friend…or at least one I wasn't related to.
With lots of things to say and a real tenacity to always be out and doing something, it didn't take long before I realized “this will never do.” A few days later I accepted an odd but extremely well-timed invitation to a girl’s birthday party in a town 3 hours away. I’d only hung out with said birthday girl maybe 2 times before but I thought nothing of driving the 3 hours aton a night, donned in some Forever 21 tank top I’m sure, to throw back some red bulls with a bunch of people I’d never met. It was on that trip I met one of my closest and best girlfriends to this day.
A few weeks into my freshman year of college (a college of more than 46 thousand students of which I knew just one at the time, my boyfriend from back home) I made hand-written invites for every girl on my dorm floor to invite them to FCA one night. I lived on a floor of 80 girls. Talk about writer’s cramp! But it resulted in friendships that carried on throughout college and after.
And when I moved to Atlanta, just two weeks into calling this city my home, I found myself and three other ladies I’d talked to for approximately 10 minutes making dinner plans for that following week. And from that one interaction, I met some of the most incredible women I've ever known.
I’ve come to the conclusion I either have extreme uncomfortableness with silence and an awkward need to fill it that somehow by pure blessings from the heavens above has resulted in friendships OR I just subconsciously know the importance of having great girlfriends…..Let’s go with option B. #itstotallyA.
But the point in all those stories is that all those friendships have changed over time. And now 2.5 years into life in Atlanta, I find those friendships changing too. But don’t’ get me wrong, they are
good great changes, they’re “part-of-life-changes”.…. babies, boyfriends, weddings, promotions. These are changes that were longed for and were often the center of our baby-less, man-less and money-less conversations.
Yet, these recent friendship “growing pains” and my ever-clearing social calendar have alerted me that I
watch way too much real housewives that it’s time to meet new people….again. And even though I can’t possibly fathom anyone replacing these girl’s best friend statuses– it’s time for some “filler friends” that may just turn into good friendships too (Dear Future Filler Friends….I hope you aren't reading!)
Only somehow, this time, it’s harder. Whose door do I sticky-note? Whose random birthday party do I attend? Who do I chat it up with on the soccer field?....Ok, let’s be real, I’ve never played an organized sport in my life…but you get the drift.
What’s your go-to for meeting new people?!
Are you an introvert or an extrovert?