Thursday, September 1, 2011

What is Sexy?

Every year Victoria Secret releases their list of “What is sexy” – celebrated, of course, with a party. Naturally, it got me thinking….just what do I think is sexy? And not just in the opposite sex. (well, that too) but, life in general.

1-Confidence. You hear it all the time that “confidence is so attractive.” And I have to agree…..for both genders, this attribute takes the cake on spicy. Take for example, the day I mistakenly wore hot pink lacees underneath my white pants to work….I knew I looked like a street ho….but I rocked that street ho look with confidence all day.

2 – A good workout. While you may not feel your most glamorous after a workout – and God knows I certainly don’t look it – I love the feeling of strength after a hard core workout. The feeling of sweat running down your body and the tightness of your muscles begging to be stretched out.
 this's like looking in a mirror! ;)

3 – A man who can make decisions.  And I’m not just talking about where to eat dinner (although that’s super helpful). I mean a guy who is street savvy. Take healthcare and benefits for instance (since I just spent copious amounts of time going over all this crap necessary info)  - PPO, HMO, HRA, ROTH IRA, FSA’s….OMG! I find it highly attractive when a guy just “gets” all this stuff and knows good decisions to make....basically so I don't have to.

4 – Party of Two; Eyes for one. I guess if this one had to be summed up in one word it would be monogamy or faithfulness. We’ve discussed this on the blog before but seriously, nothing is more endearing than seeing a couple out and his eyes glued on her (in a non-creepy sort of way).

5 – Tide. If Tide came out with a shower body wash, my life would be complete.

6 – A tan – (I know I will get countless comments on the necessity of SPF for exposing this one! Yikes!) And while that is very true who doesn’t love a little summertime shimmer?

7 – Advertising. Naturally I’m a tiny bit biased on this one – but I don’t know if there is a sexier career. Ok I’m totally biased.

8 – Shoulders. They say this summer’s best accessory is the shoulder. (Small chests around the world rejoiced when they heard this!) But I have to agree. I have a “thing” for one-shouldered apparel so this trend made me VERY happy.  

9 - Professionalism – You know what’s attractive? When someone knows how to do their job and does it well. And you know what makes the cherry on top? Someone who’s actually passionate about what they do no matter what it is.

10 – Generosity – I grew up in a family where my parents regularly picked up the tab for others…whether they were at our table or not. I’ve seen them pay for other’s car repairs, spend their weekends power washing homes and cleaning out rain gutters and even send two college kids on a trip to see a Notre Dame football game….all because they could. So I have come to highly appreciate the attractiveness of generous people.

11 – Bombshell Waves – I would give my spleen, a kidney and half my pancreas for hair like this. Just Kidding. But seriously, if my hair ever did anything remotely close it would be a glorious day for sure.

I think most of us would agree that Ryan Reynolds cut abs and Miranda Kerr’s smoldering figure are indeed, sexy. To some, sexy may be the ability to fix a tractor, rock a baby to sleep or play a game of catch with their dog. To others sexy is whipping up  a zinger of a cocktail or dropping it like its hot in a club…….“sexy” means different things to different people. So I want to know…..

What makes your sexy list?


Anonymous said...

Love confidence, faithfulness, shoulders and a tan. Love love Ryan gosling and while I love the hair in the last pic I love the shoes: )

Jess - PrettyPhysicist said...

I have to disagree on the Tide. I prefer Gain ... and they make a dish soap that smells the same as the detergent. ;) but I love the smell of laundry detergent. I think that's why one of my favorite Yankee Candles is Cotton Breeze. I keep it in my bathroom (because the smell doesn't really go anywhere else in my house, but it always reminds me of laundry). Oh, and I also love the smell of laundry breath - you know, the exhaust from a dryer.

I agree with just about everything on your list ... especially the monogamy one! I love that when Ken and I go out, his eyes are on me and only me. There's just a whole lot of sexy about that. :)

Stephanie and Such said...

Weird, why are you describing me?!

Haha. But seriously a man with some Confidence and one who can call the shots is my kind of sexy.

Oh, and I want her body?? Nothing is better than a good workout!!

Maura said...

i love this post! i am with you on the confidence, professionalism, family and a guy who can make decisions!!! also the work out thing is so true! definitely one of the best feelings!

jillian :: cornflake dreams. said...

love this list! i think confidence is my no1 sexy pick. xoxo jillian:: cornflake dreams

Shannon said...

You are my southern twin, it appears.

First, Ryan Reynolds can have me.

Second, confidence and shoulders are #1 and #2 on my sexy list.

True story, the first time I met my husband and he asked me out on a date, all I could see was a tall man with great shoulders who whispered in my ear to "dress sexy" on our first date. That may bother some women....but I swooned.

Anonymous said...

One: I LOVE Mad Men, just finished all 5 seasons (in a bout a week & a half NBD lol)
Two: Tide is hands down the best detergent (I've tried many so many its kind of scary lol)
Three: a good workout is my favorite. I feel like a million bucks afterwards. I love watching people workout specifically running (creeper alert, I know lol)

*Great Post!

| C AND C | Sarmin said...

Agree with 1, 3, 4!, 6, 9, 10, & 11.
I need to start doing #2 on a regular basics...The only thing I can think about being on my sexy list right now, is when a guy gives you that super cocky grin/smile.


Molly said...

Being into fitness is non-negotiable for me. Must love to work out. A tan is nice, too! Also, I've never been attracted to men with blonde hair?

Elizabeth said...

Oh my gosh, I love the beachy waves! I have tried numerous times and my hair is just never perfectly messy. If you find a way to get that hair, let me know ASAP! Haha!

Diana said...

I liked this post a lot! Well written. I think confidence is at the top of my list as well. Also, like you said, being well-rounded in the knowledge department. ie taxes, medical talk, 401k's, even knowing your wines...being cultured I suppose goes along with that.

With women, I think knowing your body type and dressing accordingly does loads for your sex appeal. I learned that one when I started to grow curves in college (or was that the freshman fifteen? ha!) - to dress for your size really just makes you always look that much better!

Lindsey said...

I agree with all of them! Love Tim Gunn but love Guiliana even more. She is so my girl crush. Above all, I def think confidence makes someone the most sexy!! Also, dudes over 6 foot with football player bodies make my heart go woah. YUM!

annahita said...

love this post! such a great list, maybe I'm just getting old but I love seeing my husband holding a baby! I don't know if it's "sexy" per-se, but so attractive and lovable. :)

Jaymee said...

Amen to number 10!! I love generous people and when people are good tippers i find it so attractive.

Sam {} said...

yes!! i think i agree on all of these - and maybe personal assistants can be added to the list :)

love generosity and realness. so sexy!

Katie said...

you can totally get waves like that! Have you tried a curling wand? I heard they work wonders.

MAKE IT WORK! - Good ole Timmy. What a good man.

I love confidence most of your list. ALWAYS. xoxo

Chelsea Coleen said...

a TAN?!!! i am so offended.

were you thinking youd get that response? well you won't from me. i love sunshine basking and it just DOES make you feel better.

confidence is a HUGE one.

i'd like to add "getting my eyebrows waxed" to that list. i feel DAMN SEXY (ok i do feel pretty) afterwards. i just feel clean.

clearly you needed to know that. love this list ms ash!

Abby said...

I love this! I agree that confidence is super sexy. And a guy that can make decisions. I know exactly what you mean about that!

Megan said...

Totally agree with you on generosity and faithfulness!!!

Ginger said...

a man who can make a decision (a strong one in that sense), a gentleman, and faithfulness

Mrs. Pancakes said...

This is an awesome list!

Rissy said...

ahhh I loovvee this! I agree on absolutely everything!

ok well maybe not advertising... but you make a really solid point with that Mad Men reference #touche

umm and why was I not invited to this VS party? working in the store clearly offers 0 benefits


Tabitha Lynn said...

I like all of your choices, maybe independence.

I think VS forgot to invite a few people, cuz I'd totally go.

Young and Fabulous said...

first, LOVE the weezy pic ;-)

tans are very sexy! i wish i tanned more....hahah i gues i got the irish genes wahhhh

basically guliana rancic is SEXY! everythign about her!! i wanna be her...ahaha but yes her hair is absolutely amazing...i need it!

i loved this post ashley! you are sexxxxxay!

Seashells and Southern Belles said...

I heart Tide too!!! I def wish like Ulta would come out with a detergent smelling body wash!

All Glam Things said...

Great Post! Confidence and a Guy who can make decision is Fabulous!
Love your Blog, you new follower!