Thursday, September 8, 2011

May-December Romance

I got to thinking about May-December romances the other day. I was reading Life & Style magazine (where all my “deep thinking” usually starts) and there was an article about how Taylor Swift likes older men as she is newly-linked to the “I’m Yours” crooner, Jason Mraz. She’s also been involved with Jake Gyllenahall…and the infamous John Mayer, all at least 10 years her senior.

For those of you wondering, a May-December Romance is defined as a relationship between people with a large age gap. 
I started thinking back on all the famous, slightly quirky romances in H-wood over time. 
Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise attend the UK premiere of ‘Valkyrie’ held at the Odeon Leicester Square in London, England
Tom Cruise & Katie Holmes (she's 16 years younger than him)

Catherine Zeta Jones and Michael Douglas attend The 2007 National Board of Review Awards Gala at Cipriani 42nd street January 15, 2007
Michael Douglas (56) & Catherine Zeta-Jones (31)

Brad & Angelina (Mr. Pitt was 12 years old when Baby Angie was hatched)

Donald and Melania Trump
Donald Trump & Melanie Trump (He's 24 years older than her but I bet there were about 23 [million] reasons she married him)

Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon pose outside The Bank Nightclub at the Bellagio in Las Vegas
Mariah Carey & Nick Cannon (separated by 12 years)

Harrison Ford and Calista Flockhart at Cannes 2008
Harrison Ford & Calista Flockhart (separated by 22 years)
Ashton Demi Clinton Global Initiative
Ashton & Demi (he's 16 years younger) - probably the most famous May-December romance

Jay-Z & Beyonce (He's 12 years her senior)

Hugh Hefner and his fiancee, Crystal Harris, are all smiles at the TCM Classic Film Festival Opening Night Gala and World Premiere of the film “An American In Paris” at Grauman’s Chinese Theatre in Hollywood, Calif., on April 28, 2011 
Hugh Hefner (85) & Crystal Harris (23) (This is NOT a May-December romance....this is what you call illegal.)

What are your thoughts on May-December romances?

Do they leave you scratching  your head and shuddering at the thought or do you find them mysterious and exciting?

Have you ever been in a May-December romance?


Diana Mieczan said...

It's really interesting to look at all those different age gaps. Have a great Thursday, sweetie. How is your week s far? xo

Jess - PrettyPhysicist said...

My hubby is 8 years older than I am ... does that count? What is the cutoff for a May-December romance? I've always dated guys that were older than me, but this is the largest age gap. There are times we notice the age difference (like when he mentions something from the 80s, and I have no idea what he's talking about because I was still a baby in the 80s), but most of the time I don't notice it. Sometimes I think he likes having young arm candy. :)

Whitney said...

I use to always date older guys than me. 5 years, 10 years, 12 years, and so on. When I was 18, I started dating a guy that was 36. We ended up dating almost 2 years. I ended up breaking up with him because he had no ambition, no chemistry anymore, and plenty of other reasons. Even after that, I would go out with guys in their late 20s/early 30s. However, I ended up marrying a guy almost 3 years younger than me.

Ashley said...

Okay, the last one...ummmm, yeah. No! haha. I feel like age a'int nothin', but a numba baby! If the love is there, thats all that matters! Clearly, lots of the couples you listed above show that! :) Great post, Ash! BTW, me and the ex/current (lol) are about five years apart...not too too bad~!

Fit With Flash said...

i'm into older guys too... not creepy age gaps, like 20 years or anything, but i'm currently dating a guy 10 yrs older.

Shalyn said...

I remember being so angry when Demi and Ashton got together. I thought he was waiting for me, that two timin- sun of a beach! Whatever.

Oh, and I think the picture of Ashton is not of him and Demi, but of him and Amanda Pete. I only know this because I'm obsessed with Ashton. Like, literally celebrated his birthday in high school by bringing a cake to my English class and sharing it with my class. They loved me for it. I think. ?

:) Love you!

Shannon said...

I think as you get older, age gaps aren't as "icky". (The only word I could think of) That being said, couples closer in age definitely have advantages when it comes to stages in your life.

I prefer my men a few years younger. Easier to train. ;)

Lindsey said...

I like an older guy but most of these dudes and gals are way too much older. Minus Jay Z and Beyonce. They are a-ok in my book. I'm so excited for their little bambino. I think that is a pic of Amanda Peete with Ashton though. Remember that movie they did together? I don't know why, but I think it's creepy when a woman dates a younger dude.

Lacey in the City said...

When I was 22 I dated a 35 year old...he was way hott, had a boat, owned a place on the Hudson River overlooking the Manhattan was quite nice actually!

Also Ash, I'm doing an amazing giveaway over on my blog this week...gorgeous new handbag! Must. Check. It. Out!

Ali said...

I will never, ever, ever date someone younger than I am. My relationships have always been with guys who are older, most recently my ex who was 9.5 years older than I am. We were very serious but ultimately I think the age gap got to him and we broke up in March. My heart is STILL broken but that's besides the point...

I don't think age matters one little bit at all! Especially experiencing it firsthand, I say if you love 'em, go for it!

However, if you prefer older men (like I do) it's quite difficult to find one if you're in college and can't go to the bar...

Loved your post!


Angel Glover said...

haha, this is a cool post because of my parent's 21-year age difference. it's interesting, though to see all the couple such as those. harrison ford is my favorite.. besides ryan reynolds and josh lucas, of course.
and i love your new header/title at the top of the blog! so modern & chic looking. :)

Alex said...

I am a 2.5 years only. But I still own it.

Katie said...

but really, its the deep & thought-provoking posts like these that I'm excited to get back to in blogworld! Seriously!! :D

Aimee said...

My husband and I are the same age. I don't think I would mind someone a few years younger or older but if they are old enough to be my parent, I don't think I could get over that!

Sam {} said...

i can only imagine they come with some challenges. B is 2 years older than me, and i often don't remember a song/tv show he's talking about. Can you imagine talking about your childhood knowing the other person was already an adult?!

Seashells and Southern Belles said...

hahahah I agree that there were about a ca-trillion reasons for Milania to marry the Donald... and that it should be illegal for Hef to dates any of those girls. ew.

Julie said...

I love this post! I had no idea Catherine Zeta Jones was only 31....for some reason I thought she was a lot older! And I don't think I would date a younger guy- at least not at this age! They would be a little too immature!

CMae said...

For me personally, I would never date anyone more than a year younger than me, and no one older than me than say by FIVE years. That's it!

Amber said...

I'm a new follower, but I have been reading your blog for a while!
I was in a May-December romance for a couple of months (13yrs older than me). It just didn't work out for me, there was too much of a difference in where we were in our lives. We are still friends, but romance was just out of the question. Just a personal issue.

Young and Fabulous said...

id like to say that when i started dating kurt (i was 18 he was 20) i felt SO SO cool!

i wish i could say i wouldnt care about age, but id never date a younger guy! idk why! i think its just because id be older and feel like i was cradle robbing!

google Doug Hutchison. he is an actor. hes like 50. just married a 16 year old girl...Courtney Stodden. OMFG. And she has a music video. its a must watch lol


| C AND C | Sarmin said...

Is that Amanda Peete, with Ashton?

I have always like older guys. Five was my limit, & I did hookup with a guy two years younger, um yeah NEVER AGAIN! Deff not with him, or anyone else younger then me. I kinda got my eyes on a dude who's ten years older then me right now.

B & Jay so cute!


Married...with a Pup said...

Thanks for the definition....because I've never heard of it! Hahaa! BUT, I still can't get over Mariah and Nick...weird!

Erica J. said...

I'm a new follower and love your blog so far! I am currently in a May-December relationship, my boyfriend is 22 years older. On paper it looks extremely creepy (I will admit, ha) but we all know men and they're maturity level is typically significantly lower than ours. My bf still has a lot of growing up to do (maybe even more than me :/) and our age difference does surface on some ocassions but it has worked for us for over a year :)

natasha {schue love} said...

How funny!! Never would have put two and two together with the age gaps on all of these couples. I can't believe Taylor Swift and Jason Mraz are him!

Anonymous said...

I just stumbled across this post as I was searching for blogs dealing with May-December romances. My husband is 35 years older than me, and I know that creeps some people out. In a land not so far away and a time not so long ago, interracial romances and same-sex romances were no-nos too. We've been together for 9 years and just got married two years ago. Our families are very supportive, and glad to see us both happy. Life is too short to allow narrow-minded ideals to dictate how we live...within legal limits, of course. Live and Let Live. I applaud you for tackling what is unfortunately still a sticky subject.

bizarre or not said...

I agree with Sarai. I just ran across this blog and the comments are interesting. We all have our "druthers," and are entitled to them. I may not like a particular pairing, but in reality it is not my business. If both parties in a May-December relationship are happy together and committed to the relationship, I wish them well. However, in the interest of full disclosure, I am the December in a May-December relationship. I (a male) am 32 years older than my May gf, and even though I look and act much younger, we do get stares when we are out in public. But we are both mature enough to recognize the challenges we face, and love each other enough to work on improving what is a true, mutually satisfying love relationship. BTW, we will be getting married in July of 2012. We could not be happier.