Monday, September 26, 2011

Keep Calm and …for the love…..just keep calm

Is it just me or is Facebook getting more dramatic? I have noticed more and more statuses on my mini-feed lately from the female race that either not-so-subtly allude to some drama, pull the "poor-me" card or post some open-ended status that makes everyone ask “what’s going on?!” or “OMG are you ok?”
Funny Thinking Of You Ecard: If you really loved me, you would say it on my Facebook Wall.
When I was in the throes of my dramatic years (you know, the kind when you have a fight and you run out of the room slamming the door….hoping he’ll come chasing after you…..and then getting even MORE pissed off when he totally ignores your tantrum…yeah, those days), I had a boyfriend tell me
Don’t cause a scene.”

And it used to make me SO.MAD.

But now, I get it. And I hear myself saying it in my own head…saying it as I passed the young sorority girl and citadel cadet having it out on the streets of Charleston a few weekends ago.
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Or the wife heavily huffing past all the tables in a restaurant I was at last night as her clearly embarrassed other half strolled a good 10 feet behind her. Sorry guy, we all know you’re with crazy.
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Or the overly dramatic girls on facebook who post statuses that 99% of your friends know is referring to your boyfriend. (FYI-it’s not going to make him regret his actions, but it sure might make him look for the first ticket out of crazy town!)
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I’m not talking about being a silent martyr or placate-er. Everyone has arguments. And, let’s be honest, we all have our overly-dramatic moments. Take for instance the time I put dish soap instead of detergent in my dishwasher and flooded my kitchen with bubbles and I called my mom bawling that “everything was wrong.” It wasn’t. I just gave my floor a bubble bath.  ;)

But really girls, let’s take our dirty laundry, remove it from the corner of Facebook and Twitter….and figure that crap out at home!

XO, A


47 comments:

Jess - PrettyPhysicist said...

Amazingness. Someone needs to tell all my Facebook friends this. This is probably why I unfriended half of the people that were my friends. I'm always amazed at what little shame people have that they air all their dirty laundry on Facebook. I'd be embarrassed.

Jenna said...

AGREED! Thanks so much for posting this - it drives me crazy when people feel the need to share their entire private life on fb!

xoxo
Jenna

Brooke said...

how true...its almost like girls are just wired for drama sometimes. Thanks for reminding me to keep myself in check: )

Rissy said...

Emo Facebook and Twitter statuses are my biggest pet peeve... and I've been writing them lately!

Seriously Ashley, I give you permission to call me out EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. I do that. I don't need that many people knowing my business....

oh but I did giggle that about something being wrong and everyone assuming it was guy related- it wasn't : )


CarissaExplainsItAll

Sarah said...

totally agree! I watched some facebook drama unfold last night, actually. so obnoxious.

emailing you soon about saturday. can't wait! :)

Michelle said...

Love this!! I may or may not be over the whole Facebook thing. This last major change really ruffled my feathers! lol. If I didn't live states away from friends or family...I would be saying bye bye to FB! :)

Fit With Flash said...

preach!!

Shannon said...

Amen. Those drama facebook girls (and a few boys too) are automatically ignored on my facebook feed.

I don't care about your dramz.

Ashley said...

All these Facebook changes just confuse me- can't we just go back to the oldschool version??

Nikki said...

I concur! I always thought it was strange to put your dirty laundry out on Facebook for everyone to see/know and thought maybe it was because I was a much more private person. I know that sometimes

I am guilty of a passive aggressive post here and there but come on I really don't need to know all that you plan on leaving your husband every other day. And the language...is it really unnecessary?

Rant over! Glad other people feel the same way.

Aimee said...

amen, Amen and AMEN! Loved your comical approach to the topic. I remember those old school bumper stickers people used to post to facebook. So funny!

Ashley said...

agreed!!! I not only hate the FB messages that are "poor me" but also hate the Sappy "I loveeeee my boyfriend" posts. Ugh, gag!

megan said...

TOTALLY agree. Save the drama for yo mama. I hate when people post overly dramatic things on FB where it's so obvious they're just searching for sympathy. And I'm glad you posted this link on FB so maybe those people will get the hint. :)

Katie said...

Of course I was attracted to this post from the title :) I actually don't have many "friends" on fb that post "woe is me" status'...or maybe I just don't pay attention enough! that could be it. I just pay attention to ones that are funny or positive.

or..a simply solution? the unfriend button.

Shalyn said...

Omgooooooooooooosh AMEN SISTA! I am SICK of my mini feed. I try to avoid it at all costs. I had one girl I went to high school put on there once, "Just so everyone knows, "John Doe" is a woman beater and I want everyone to know it!" Then that proceeded with some guy calling her out for beating him up too and this went on for about 30 more comments. A little entertaining, but seriously??? I really can't stand it when people "call out" other people on there too and try and stir up so much drama.

FACE your problems, don't FACEbook your problems.

Word! :)

P!nky said...

PREACH it SISTAHHHHHHHH!!!! I can't stand the woe is me to a tee. I will admit that sometimes I post when scary/sad things happen in life but not the drama. People don't need to know about how the bf and I fight. I can't stand the married "johnny won't take out the trash...so annoyed!"
REALLY!?!?!? ugh!

Thanks for posting, sometimes we all need to take a step back and BREATHE!!!!

Ashley said...

Amen Ash! Guilty as charged for being somewhat childish with my status on FB and Twitter, but I've grown up and stop airing my dirty laundry on social media sites...however, I see a lot of stuff that shouldn't be on FB and Twitter ALL the time. Makes you wonder if anyone really wants privacy anymore...good post!

Young and Fabulous said...

(you know, the kind when you have a fight and you run out of the room slamming the door….hoping he’ll come chasing after you…..and then getting even MORE pissed off when he totally ignores your tantrum…yeah, those days)......STORY OF MY LIFE! hahahah kurt never gives in to my tantrums/running and slamming doors haha


ok so i loved this...mainly because we have similar views of facebook. My favorite is "UGH...life sucks" and people commment like, Why? what's wrong? what happened? and the person never answers why on the commments (i check for days after to see if they ever said waht was wrong...im nosy like that)

please still be my friend even though i am sometimes the huffing/puffing crazy girlfriend

i loved this..i think im gonna go write on your wall right now

xoxox

genelle said...

I am with you a hundred percent.
However, I have to admit sometimes some drama is intriguing on Facebook..

It makes life a little more interesting!

But the storming out of the room and praying that my guy rushes after you, I'm also guilty..
Thank goodness those days are over!

Stephanie and Such said...

Two words: THANK YOU.

Best.Post.Ever.

Sarah Elizabeth said...

amen! I keep saying I'm gonna delete facebook one of these days..it's just full of too much drama.

californiadreamin said...

Amen sister!! I can't stand when girls post the "oh poor me" deal about their guy.

Michelle (michabella) said...

YESSSSSS. Amen sista!!! The drama/rants, etc on fb annoy me just as much as the "my life is perfect" posts.

Terri said...

Thank God, that I am not the only person saying this over and over as I scroll down my feed. <3

Suzie Q said...

Well Said! 1000% agree! Great article!

Suzie Q said...

Did I just say article? that's lame... GREAT POST! (obviously need my coffee :-D )

Alex said...

Amen!! One of my biggest pet peeves for sure.

lauren said...

the open-ended statuses are the absolute worst.

like:

"OMG. Today sucked sooooooo badly!"

...of course they're waiting on someone to go, "why?"

So frustrating. That's when you want to comment on their status and say,

"Keep this shit off Facebook. Invest in a blog."

I may or may not have actually commented that exact statement on a status before ;)

xo, lauren [let it be.]

Whitney said...

amen girl! i hate it when people air the dirty laundry out on fbook and twitter. i mean thats what blogs are for hahaha...i kid. preach on girly.

Raven said...

amen!!! "figure that crap out at home" haha love it. I honestly have been deleting people who are negative nancys and debbie downers all the freakin time on my facebook. no one wants to hear it!

Sam {fitnessfoodandfaith.blogspot.com} said...

hahahaha, LOVE THIS!!!! i actually kind of love the dramatic status updates. love in that i'm glad they aren't coming from any of my close girlfriends, because i would most definitely be sending them this little link to drop a not so subtle hint :)

Married...with a Pup said...

Haha, so totally agree!

agroeper said...

Totally agree!!!

P!nky said...

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The Neal's said...

Preach it sister, preach it!

She Speaks said...

WORD.

Whitney said...

I hardly ever get on facebook anymore, but I totally know what you mean. Those statuses aren't fooling anybody. And the whole dish soap in the dish washer... something that I totally can see myself doing. I mean what's the difference anyway?

Mary and Dyer said...

hahaha this is so true! There is nothing I dislike more than someone posting their ish all over facebook. Like... not helping anything!!! xox

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Kayla said...

Totally guilty of being that gf at one point! So embarrassed now! Maybe I can break the chain with Emmalyn.

Mrs. Pancakes said...

This was great post and I LOVED the message! Wel said, here here!

Angie said...

Love this post! I couldn't agree more.

Jennʻs Adventureʻs said...

ohh girl, I totally put dish soap instead of detergent in my dishwasher, too!!! Don't worry -- that only happens ONCE;)

The Miskell Family said...

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Happy Blogging!

PS...thats sooooo something my hubby would do with the dishwasher

Rach @ This Italian Family said...

This is SO true!

Molly said...

YES! Why do those people feel the need to share everything?!

I like to keep my crazy under wraps ;)

Katie said...

h yes! I get soooo sick of the drama of fb and twitter!

Katie said...

..............me